OOOHHHHH I am guilty of this one. I have been challenging this thinking with great focus this last year or so. Mindreading, in the context of self schema logical fallacies, is the assumption I am being judged and I know exactly what someone is thinking about me.
Which is impossible. Not logical. Even someone like me who is hypersensitive, trusts her gut to a fault, literally fault, and has a good sense of people, cannot legit read minds. I don’t know the history a person has that explains some of their thought patterns. I do not know if they are having a good day or bad day before I came into the picture. I do not know, with intimate knowledge, their experience of me.
It annoys me to no end that I read resting bitch face as always about me as I also have permanent resting or active bitch face. I should know better. Most time I am just lost in my own mind or actively wrangling thoughts in my brain farm. Which results in a sour face apparently. I very much need to do a better job giving people the benefit of the doubt…assume innocence.
Mindreading is generally negative. If I MUST do this, if WE must do this, maybe we should assume they are thinking the best of us.
It’s not, of there’s that B who lives on the corner, how about “it’s that gardener who lives on the corner.”
I’m also the house with the tulips every spring.
I’m the girl with that adorable puggle.
I’m the lady with that new car.
I’m the lady who walked home a lost little girl.
I’m the woman with that husband who is an artist.
I’m the girl with all the plants in the window.
“Hey, it’s the woman who loves to water her lawn”
“I think I always see her walking”
“I wonder what I should have for dinner”
There are so many stories I tell myself, I think it is worth the work to assume they are telling the true stories of who I am. If I have to think an expression or behavior has something to do with me, make it a positive!
But I am not a mind-reader, so it is likely that the behavior I am interpreting has nothing to do with me at all.